tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post304340919706927693..comments2024-03-20T15:50:48.991+05:30Comments on Compulsive Confessions: We Are All Debate Club Mood-y (skip, if you prefer the party posts)eMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12716202062654957842noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-32725015982178848562009-06-17T12:03:23.317+05:302009-06-17T12:03:23.317+05:30well thank god for this!!
for too long i have be...well thank god for this!! <br /><br />for too long i have been having this argument with too many peers and friends.<br /><br />after a point I just gave up - cos only the truly liberated ones will TRY and understand.<br /><br />feminism is NOT about bossing over men, or any of that shite, it;s about striving for equality and basic human respect. and women who think feminism is about bossing overmen are a bunch of losers. most people just MISS than point dont they???<br /><br />one issue that used to get me into fights with a lota men was that a gigglacious girl holding a drink in her hand was deemed as 'drunk'. i dont get it - why???? why cant girls just have fun and giggle? with or without a drink!<br /><br />fuck ppl who use words like slut/whore/etc. They're just WAY too narrow minded to enjoy this world. <br /><br />and fuck ppl who think ALL girls are just DYING to get married...<br /><br />the truth is - veyr few ppl think for themsleves - and the ones who do end up fighting battles like such.See Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09968385538752541621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-51652724081624278982009-05-26T13:57:21.598+05:302009-05-26T13:57:21.598+05:30I liked it when you said being a feminist has noth...I liked it when you said being a feminist has nothing to do with being feminine!! I think thats the truest statement i ever heard so far...<br /><br />I keep telling my collegues who circulate jokes abt dumb blondes and dumb women (buggers!!) that i am a certified, bumptious feminist and beware of that and they laugh it away....serious feminists who really HATE men should be made to interact with all the MCP s in this world and make them understand that we are also capable of hating and teach them a lesson!!<br /><br />wanted to write a lot more, but...cant be expressive as you are meenakshi!!Sowmyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13539600112860155276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-41642740960931473192009-05-26T13:55:30.604+05:302009-05-26T13:55:30.604+05:30I liked it when you said being a feminist has noth...I liked it when you said being a feminist has nothing to do with being feminine!! I think thats the truest statement i ever heard so far...<br /><br />I keep telling my collegues who circulate jokes abt dumb blondes and dumb women (buggers!!) that i am a certified, bumptious feminist and beware of that and they laugh it away....serious feminists who really HATE men should be made to interact with all the MCP s in this world and make them understand that we are also capable of hating and teach them a lesson!!<br /><br />wanted to write a lot more, but...cant be expressive as you are meenakshi!!Sowmyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13539600112860155276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-13417641024115822492008-09-19T01:53:00.000+05:302008-09-19T01:53:00.000+05:30I'd rather say men and women are different and sho...I'd rather say men and women are different and shouldn't be measured by the same yardstick (though they complement and complete each other :P).<BR/><BR/>Well world has always been male dominated as it is, apart from the dravidians may be, a long time ago. The strong oppressing the weak is a law of nature (lions do that against lionesses even). So women have to come up with some strategy to make an upheaval. And I feel the change has already started. But it will be gradual, unless we have a female despot ruling the entire world, or someone like Sanjay Gandhi gouging out everyone's balls to reduce population!Mallikarjunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18007731732929107151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-33285542743872266902008-08-22T14:40:00.000+05:302008-08-22T14:40:00.000+05:30I am not afraid of 'feminists'. Thet are despicabl...I am not afraid of 'feminists'. Thet are despicable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-23926339760210336642007-12-11T20:16:00.000+05:302007-12-11T20:16:00.000+05:30our own government does not support a woman standi...our own government does not support a woman standing for her rights!<BR/><BR/>As someone having dabbed in divorce law, a woman who has been desserted by her husband cannot get a divorce unless he comes to court (err.. he left her!!) and so legally she cannot move on or safeguard her own assets!<BR/><BR/>No wonder we needed people to fight for those rights- but they got misconstrued into what is the current concept of feminism...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-6679272314175833922007-12-11T20:10:00.000+05:302007-12-11T20:10:00.000+05:30its like lesbians cannot be pretty! for gawd's sak...its like lesbians cannot be pretty! for gawd's sake!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-9679844444721066712007-09-07T13:45:00.000+05:302007-09-07T13:45:00.000+05:30Here's another feminine veiw point.. Any change is...Here's another feminine veiw point.. Any change is a threat.<BR/>Everyone in society is used to something called a stereotype - the usual. Anything different from the usual is viewed with suspectfully, until it is proven to be harmless.<BR/><BR/>We're in times when men haven't completely realized that women can go beyond the traditional roles attributed to them. And neither have women. Thats why - if we behave like men do, we become the "sluts". Its upto smart ones like us to ignore it - We'll forgive them in our hearts once they realize their folly :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-6524691845479449392007-08-26T16:07:00.000+05:302007-08-26T16:07:00.000+05:30me suggests everyone relax and just think of the b...me suggests everyone relax and just think of the bigger picture.<BR/>just read this somewhere..<BR/>Women's liberation because...<BR/><BR/>... woman's work is never done and is underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious and we're the first to get the sack and what we look like is more important than what we do and if we get raped it's our fault and if we get bashed we must have provoked it and if we raise our voices we're nagging bitches and if we enjoy sex we're nymphos and if we don't we're frigid and if we love women it's because we can't get a "real" man and if we ask our doctor too many questions we're neurotic and / or pushy and if we expect community care for children we're selfish and if we stand up for our rights we're aggressive and "unfeminine" and if we don't we're typical weak females and if we want to get married we're out to trap a man and if we don't we're unnatural and because we still can't get an adequate safe contraceptive but men can walk on the moon and if we can't cope or don't feel guilty about abortion and... for lots and lots of other reasons we are part of the women's liberation movement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-25899332234558630942007-08-25T23:06:00.000+05:302007-08-25T23:06:00.000+05:30Yeah! so thinking more, Feminism is a produce to S...Yeah! so thinking more, Feminism is a produce to Shrivalled pussies and shrunken minds (and probably things much worse). <BR/><BR/>so yes, I can stand strong women with minds and fat salaries of their own because I can mostly stand people who have something of their own.<BR/><BR/>Feminists still get my goat, though! and re-reading through this blog, and other Indian blogs from the reasonably priviledged arts-and-culture types (who seem to have almost simultaneously, almost lemming like, discovered Feminism), perhaps somebody ougta tell me why I prefer to be with women with strong minds and credible abilites, and despise Feminists.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-32239758359940810412007-08-25T22:57:00.000+05:302007-08-25T22:57:00.000+05:30@ ir, actually, not sure of what you seem to say. ...@ ir, actually, not sure of what you seem to say. i just watched Bourne Ultimatum, and it has plenty of strong women characters, who i thought (as a man), tended to enhance the movie. and some of the women characters are rather extreme.<BR/><BR/>i would have objected if any one of them were feminist though. i think my problem with feminism is the same as my problem with anything that is reductive. you just have to read the few pro-feminism posts above to see my point. these ideologues seem to be less human than human.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-46031395770567434362007-08-25T15:03:00.000+05:302007-08-25T15:03:00.000+05:30men are wary of feminist , because they represent ...men are wary of feminist , because they represent the extreme point of view ,just as there are left and right wing political parties who take extreme positions on all issues, depending on thier ideology.<BR/><BR/>there is no middle path with feminist.IRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08533472693382257571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-61575721673692979722007-08-25T00:38:00.000+05:302007-08-25T00:38:00.000+05:30eM, and by the way, how come all this feminism all...eM, and by the way, how come all this feminism all of a sudden? is it linked to your (as you put it, almost) shrivelled pussy by any chance?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-12205183907876738282007-08-25T00:35:00.000+05:302007-08-25T00:35:00.000+05:30why am I afraid of feminists?first, because they d...why am I afraid of feminists?<BR/><BR/>first, because they don't realise the ash-trays in my house have a purpose, and really, the maid does not have to sweep their cigeratte butts off the floor in the morning.<BR/><BR/>two, they get riled when i just talk to my friends, men and women, normally. apparently, all of us men have to stick to some (always never mentioned) straw-man stereotype.<BR/><BR/>third, they don't know sex is primarily fun, not gender politics.<BR/><BR/>fourth, they get mad at me when i say we don't have to prove a point, any point, all the time and at all cost.<BR/><BR/>fifth, oh! nver mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-14264981404422833852007-08-22T22:17:00.000+05:302007-08-22T22:17:00.000+05:30A question for all the feminists out thr....what w...A question for all the feminists out thr....what would an utopian society which treats women as equal ?<BR/><BR/>Since there is a lot of cribbing abt the role of women- slut, whore and suchlikes....lets get the reason why all this whining !!<BR/><BR/>- S.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-15790025525024938052007-08-22T20:29:00.000+05:302007-08-22T20:29:00.000+05:30Great post, Em. Got me all riled up too, especiall...Great post, Em. Got me all riled up too, especially the bit about the slut vs. player. I wonder how these issues play out in truly gender equal nations like Sweden etc. Pure speculation on my part, but if they have a word for slut, I'm sure it's lost most of its negative connotations. <BR/><BR/>We live in a society that's shamefully repressed, where it's more socially acceptable for men to masturbate in crowded buses than to publicly display affection towards the women they're in love with. Yay Shiv Sena! Down with Valentine's day, public masturbation's the way to go! <BR/><BR/>Speaking of which, what India needs is a sexual reawakening. We need a Kamasutra Day. Let's spread the word.<BR/><BR/>And anyone who still believes that masculinity and femininity are socially constructed myths REALLY needs to look into the role that hormones play in male/female behavior. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you allow anonymous, unmoderated comments. Yay free speech! <BR/><BR/>Kamasutra Day! Let's DO IT!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-71682965152610330472007-08-22T19:04:00.000+05:302007-08-22T19:04:00.000+05:30no. she's your mother, under an alias, so that you...no. she's your mother, under an alias, so that you don't catch her writing about how much she loves getting head and all that. bet u didnt know that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-3087802986185584942007-08-22T17:58:00.000+05:302007-08-22T17:58:00.000+05:30This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-20525052807707143322007-08-22T17:05:00.000+05:302007-08-22T17:05:00.000+05:30strong views but...like there is always a flip sid...strong views but...like there is always a flip side..there are men who dont bother, there is a society who respect n appreciates...moreover look back at our society 20 yrs bck..we surely have come a long way..things change..all they need is time..this is a truth..and the sooner we accept truth easier is the pain...and did i say i loved ur posts!Awanishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01410667060491657119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-90102328822280627512007-08-22T16:51:00.000+05:302007-08-22T16:51:00.000+05:30i believe being feminist or not is a personal choi...i believe being feminist or not is a personal choice & sort of a human right, just like if someone believes in god or not!<BR/>what i mean to say is that if a woman is feminist or whatever it should'nt bother anyone else, its a free world, damn it!!<BR/>as a man i would want my woman to be independent & with a mind of her own, if u call it being feminist..doesnt matter!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-71060837490977608152007-08-22T10:38:00.000+05:302007-08-22T10:38:00.000+05:30now that everyone has made their point and the iss...now that everyone has made their point and the issue has been settled once and for all, i suggest we move on to more of such relevant and timely topics. to start with: does god exist? then why does he allow so much weevil in this world... huh..will yeast be yeast and vests be vests? will the er.. twain ever meet? just suggestions... <BR/><BR/>relax eM. this blog used a lot of fun, and when people took themselves too seriously, u were <BR/>always the first to remind them of your 'mission statement'. and then u had to go and spoil ur own party. and what an original way to do it. bah!#$!@#$Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-16151413712995151712007-08-22T07:27:00.000+05:302007-08-22T07:27:00.000+05:30@mcp 'feminity' as you describe it - women are ph...@mcp 'feminity' as you describe it - women are physically weaker, more nurturing, less sexually aggressive and more complex than men are (and so much more on similar lines) - is a social construct just as masculinity is. The reason why women are now uncomfortable with this socially constructed definition is because it has been historically used to subjugate us and shove us into disadvantages roles that are devoid of choice (for example - being treated as a maid and a glorified whore in marriage which is not much improved in recent time - except that women in India are now expected to go out to work and then come home and be the maid and whore). <BR/><BR/>Of course, society will continue to impose roles - gender or otherwise - on its members, but the problem is when those roles become too restrictive. Men too may start rebelling against the 'masculinity' construct if it becomes to stifling (and maybe already are in the form of 'metrosexuality').The Bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10402100518464137956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-35852960442070148902007-08-21T22:46:00.000+05:302007-08-21T22:46:00.000+05:30..but seriously. Why would you not want to be iden.....but seriously. Why would you not want to be identified by your sex? It's a big part of who you are. I'm proud to be a man and to be a part of everything that it entails.<BR/>Women should be confident enough to wear their feminity as a badge of honour. Why try to pretend that differences do not exist, when any moron can recoginze that they do.<BR/>Women are physically weaker, more nurturing, less sexually aggressive and more complex than men are. So what? Be proud of it and don't get all insecure when a man calls you a woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-15854378931181502052007-08-21T22:26:00.000+05:302007-08-21T22:26:00.000+05:30Just so you know..We don't think all women who sle...Just so you know..<BR/>We don't think all women who sleep around are 'sluts'. Just the ones who sleep around with everyone except us. And 'bitches' are women who won't sleep around at all.<BR/>I'm all for feminism. Burn your bra, have sex like a man and all that. Just don't object to my masculinism when I undress you with my eyes when you walk down the street.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7382033.post-37747063300890202782007-08-21T21:45:00.000+05:302007-08-21T21:45:00.000+05:30Sometimes, I don't like to make a move on someone ...<I>Sometimes, I don't like to make a move on someone because they'll think I'm a slut.</I><BR/><BR/>this is the worst! my rational mind says, if he really thinks you're a slut for making the first move, or sleeping with him 'too quickly' then he's not the right guy for you. but my pragmatic side says, that's how this shit works. i'm working on getting my rational side to prevail :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com