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6 February 2015

7 Reasons Why The Word “Friendzone” Should Be Banned Forever

What is a “friendzone”? According to Urban Dictionary, it is:
What you attain after you fail to impress a woman you're attracted to. Usually initiated by the woman saying, "You're such a good friend". Usually associated with long days of suffering and watching your love interest hop from one bad relationship to another. Verb tense is "Friend-ed"

Does anyone else see an essential problem with this? I see loads.


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1.     The word “friend zone” is often used in a negative way, meaning that men and women can’t be friends unless it’s a consolation prize.

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2.     Um, so, THANKS, dudes, unless you can bang me, I’m a bitch?
 
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3.     I’m sorry that I didn’t realize that every time you were funny or nice to me you were basically auditioning to be a love interest. 
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4.     I’m sorry also that moaning about how you got “friend zoned” makes everyone say “poor you” a lot.
 
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5.     Let’s get this clear: romantic love is great. Being attracted to someone is also great. You know what beats all those things? Friendship.
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6.     It leads to a lot of problematic areas. What is “leading on”? How do you define someone being a “tease”?  These grey areas are the same ones that sometimes lead to sexual assault.

 
-->7.     So, let’s just assume unless someone actually says they like you with those many words coming out of their mouth, that they think of you as a friend.

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PS:  TL;DR? To drive home the point better than I did, here’s a lovely comic on Friend Zone girl.
 

5 comments:

  1. Points 5, 6, 7... bang on; couldn't agree more!

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  2. Enjoyed the post. Bang on, the truth told. Coming here after ages and glad to read this post in MRM style:)

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  3. Very valid points! Made so much sense. Especially loved point 5.

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