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"A mesmerizing account of the well-known story of Matsyagandha ... and her transformation from fisherman’s daughter to Satyavati, Santanu’s royal consort and the Mother/Progenitor of the Kuru clan." - Hindustan Times
"Themes of fate, morality and power overlay a subtle and essential feminism to make this lyrical book a must-read. If this is Madhavan’s first book in the Girls from the Mahabharata series, there is much to look forward to in the months to come." - Open Magazine
"A gleeful dollop of Blytonian magic ... Reddy Madhavan is also able to tackle some fairly sensitive subjects such as identity, the love of and karmic ties with parents, adoption, the first sexual encounter, loneliness, and my favourite, feminist rage." - Scroll
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6 September 2006
When in doubt, make lists
1) Walk Away by Ben Harper: I discovered this song only recently, thanks to the wonder that is Pandora and now I can't get enough of it. Oh, Ben Harper! Oh, his sexy voice! I want to marry him and conduct our relationship entirely on the phone and I want his sexy voice to travel through the phone lines and impregnate me with sexy voiced babies. And I know he's all like, "Sometimes you just have to walk away," but if I was the girl he was walking away from, I'd attach little chain things to his ankles so he could NEVER leave me. Ahem. Are we still surprised no one wants to date me?
2) Both Sides Now by Joni Mitchell: Technically not a song about one relationship, but I like to think of jaded Joni, walking down a street, her hands in her pockets, thinking about all the what-could-have-beens. And this song is really sooooooo sad, you have to be very, very happy to listen to it without bursting into tears. "If you care, don't let them know," has got to be the best advice I've ever heard from a musician.
3) Send In The Clowns by Judy Collins: Since we're on the depressed woman side of my player, how I can I NOT put this song in? This is the perfect song for THAT breakup, you know the one I'm talking about, the one I think everyone has had at least once in their lives, when you can see the other person drawing further and further away from you and you are powerless to do anything about it, and it's one of those nights and the two of you are out somewhere and he/she is all laughing and then you catch their eye and you see, suddenly, that this has to end and it makes you so sad, but you know it has to happen. And, oh, when she says, "I thought that you'd want what I want, sorry, my dear." There's such affection in her voice, and still love, but inevitability too.
4) The Scientist by Coldplay: A no-guess entry. Surprisingly, one of my favourite car songs of all times, there's something about rolling down the windows and yelling into the wind, "Nooooooooooobody said it was eeeeeeeeeeeeeasy, it's such a shame for us to part, nobody said it was easy, noone ever said it would be this hard!" And all of Coldplay's songs seem like they're about breaking up anyway, even supposedly happy songs like Yellow, are all full of angst and turmoil. I love angst and turmoil. I'm going back to the start.
5) Babylon by David Grey: Oh, I love this song. Absolutely love it. I heard it for the first time on this double cassette set of new rock or something, and I haven't been able to get enough of it since then. His description of the weekends seem to fit mine so perfectly, for as long as I can remember, and there's this one bit where he goes, "Kicking through the autumn leaves, and wondering where it is you might be going to," and that bit is so beautiful, that I can hear his heart throbbing in his voice. Brilliant.
6) I Love, I Love by Dar Williams: Another recent discovery, but if I could sing, I'd want to sing like Dar Williams. Her songs are kind, not all jagged and they're wistful in a way that's hard to describe. With this particular song, though it's not exactly about a break up, the lyrics are so lovely, that it's nearly like poetry. You know the whole "it is better to have loved and lost" thing? Well, she takes that to a different level, when she sings, "But I live and I know that I'll burn as I grow" and you're like, dude, yes, me too!
I think that's all I can think of now that isn't U2. Feel free to add your own suggestions.
Tough shit, as they say. The best thing to do is (in Dylan’s “to keep on keeping on like a bird that flew…”ReplyDelete
Anyway, here’s my list:
Northern Sky by Nick Drake
Since We’ve Ended As Lovers (Instrumental) by Jeff Beck (Goddam ironic name?!)
No Love Today by Chris Smither
Coming Back to Me by Jefferson Airplane
I’ll keep it short. But you could check these out, and not necessarily as heartbreak songs. Just as good music. Remember Dylan and move on.
Keith Urban - You'll think of me.ReplyDelete
Hey eM --ReplyDelete
Really freakish, I just did a post like this on my Vox blog. If you're digging the Joni version of "Both Sides Now," try a remake of it by a Canadian band called Uncle Seth (I think you can hear a clip of it on their MySpace or DL it on iTunes). It's freaking great.
Also, can we hang out sometime and like, be girly or something? Say, watch America's Next Top Model? I have no friends besides Sumeet, and it's kind of...yeah. Cramping my style.
Totally agree with Sticky Fingers. Yeah, remember Dylan and move on. The chap has written some amazing break-up songs. So have the Stones.ReplyDelete
Here is my list (what came to my mind)
2When Doves Cry-Prince
3A Lack of Colour- Death Cab For Cutie
4We're Just friends- Wilco
5Dead Flowers-The Rolling Stones (exception)
But the kind of song would completely depend on the person's state of mind. He/she is happy, sad, angry or indifferent after the break-up. There can be no universal break-up song.ReplyDelete
Al lack of colour i'd definitely recommend. Also, 'babe i'm gonna leave you', it sounds trite but it isn't it's actually one of my favourite led zep songs and has got me and many other lady friends through very nasty and pleasant break ups. i tend to have pleasant brea ups, which, i dunno what that says about me. o well. 'freebird' by lynyrd skynyrd.ReplyDelete
'if you walk away from me' by etta james and lastly my favourite, because it is melacholic and deep and moving and all those many feelings that you find yourself floundering in during such times 'black' by pearl jam.
ooo, 'sano ek pal' by nusrat.
Break up songs…in no particular order…bittersweet…ReplyDelete
Goodbye my lover – James Blunt
The Reason – Hoobastank
Always on my mind – Willie Nelson
White Flag – Dido
Nothing compares 2 U - Sinead O’ Connor
Why does my heart feel so bad – Moby
Torn – Natalie Imbruglia
Don’t speak – No Doubt
With or without you – U2
as busybee used to say, a few stray thoughts:ReplyDelete
like yay, itunes. now if only everyone bought macs as well.
like if inevitablity isn't a word, it should be.
like positively 4th street.
like the fact that lists are lazy journalism.
like if you have a question about why every sentence begins with the word like, ask and I'm sure someone here will tell you
Didn't I blog about this a while back. Yes, here you go:ReplyDelete
I have 'Send in the clowns' in there as well. Disagree about Both Sides Now - it's too balanced, too philosophical to be a break-up song.
Nothing Better - Postal Service.ReplyDelete
Winner Takes It All - AbbaReplyDelete
Oh! Yeah. 'Nothing Better' by Postal Service. Only one album but a great band. A new album is in the making. Gibberd is the modern relationship expert along with Jeff Tweedy.ReplyDelete
And how could I miss 'Glory Box' by Portishead. Beth Gibbens is probably the the best female vocalist, along with Sinead O’ Connor, of the last 20 years.
Oh yes, 'Babylon' is heart-breakingly awesome.ReplyDelete
Especially that part where he goes:
I only wish that you were here,
You know I'm seeing it so clear
I've been afraid...
Glad you're unbowed, though, not so glad about the bloodiness.
Also, there's this:
Heartily know, where half gods go, the gods arrive.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happy by the Wrens. Very..wrenching (IMO).ReplyDelete
Guess I'm doing fine by Beck
Blue Thunder by Galaxie 500 (got me through one)
Rough Gem by the Islands (to uplift)
Thro the eyes of Ruby by the Smashing Pumpkins (no reason, but worked for me)
I used to like Both Sides Now, but before hearing Mitchell's one I heard the Neil Diamond version. Which is quite cool, as well. Very sorrowful.ReplyDelete
whitelight's already listed 'when doves cry' by prince. i'd also like to add 'ghost story' by sting and 'pal' by kk. gr8 songs - when u r where u never wanted to end up!ReplyDelete
you have three of my favourites on that list..ReplyDelete
both sides now is my all time fav..
and heard david grey and coldplay recently.
am real hooked ont Coldplay now..
I guess lot of people have discovered the wonder called pandora haan..so you got ur station?
Ok am adding no break up songs to your list, but guess what I added to my new blog?ReplyDelete
It Ain't Me Babe: Bob DylanReplyDelete
Diamonds and Rust: Joan Baez
In fact, taken together, those two songs tell a story about their lives.
Also Ruby Don't Take Your Love to Town (Kenny Rogers) and Knowing Me, Knowing You, ABBA.
have added your blog to my link list.
it's slightly weird but whenever i've broken up, it's not the sad but the happy songs that have made me cry. songs that talk about what i thought could have been...ReplyDelete
i really like Shania Twain's Still The One... and have always wanted to be able to sing it for somebody. and cried when i've realised that the guy i'm with is not 'the one'...
hang in there, eM. no point being with somebody who doesn't believe the sun rises in your eyes...
p.s. luckily i've FINALLY found love. with a man who has no clue who shania twain is but is still the one :-)
Off track a bit here, but Dar Williams?! Wow. Does anyone else know of her? There's this other song she sang, called 'Are you out there'. It's gorgeous. http://www.lyricsdownload.com/dar-williams-are-you-out-there-lyrics.htmlReplyDelete
May be it's already been mentioned here, but I think Bob Dylan's "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright" is a great breakup song. It's about a man finally walking away from a relationship after enduring it without any joy for quite a while. It's so simple and yet so alive that when you listen to it, the man's sentiment upon departing reaches you absolutely unobstructed. Also, it's a beautifully composed music-wise too.ReplyDelete
Though it would be too theatrical,I wish every time there's a breakup in the world, a choir of little boys should materialise and sing this song to the female.
what does it matter. the heart is broken. nothing ever really helps.ReplyDelete
Honey and the Moon- Joseph Arthur (If you don't already have this song you MUST download it now. Why are you still sitting there? Go!)ReplyDelete
Waiting in Vain - Annie Lenox Version
Somebody's Crying - Chris Issac
Tell It Like It Is - Aaron Neville
Take Another Little Piece of My Heart - Janis Joplin
So Lonely - The Police
This Bitter Pill - Dashboard Confessional
And for my guilty pleasure...
Shake it Off - Mariah Carey
Let's add my own break up songs to this.ReplyDelete
I know him so well- Elaine Paige. Only if you were VERY serious.
Genug ist genug (Enough is enough)-Fantavier. This has some AMAZINGLY angry lyrics. In German.
One of us- ABBA, if you want to just cry. 'They passed me by, all of those great romances. You were, I felt, robbing me of my rightful chances.'
opened up my itunes library to come up with the following list.ReplyDelete
Lenny Kravitz - Again
Third eye blind - How's It Going To Be
Third eye blind - jumper
Dashboard Confessional - vindicated
Dave Matthews Band - The Space Between
Match Box Twenty - If You're Gone
Nickelback - How You Remind Me
Its Been a while - Staind
Lifehouse - Breathing
God bless the IPOD
diamonds n rust - joan baezReplyDelete
a simple twist of fate - bob dylan
everybody hurts - REM
time of your life - green day
chris de burgh - carry me like a fire in your heart
iris - goo goo dolls
i could go on . . . .
um... i dont do 'break-up' songs.. never been thru a break-up i didnt initiate or regretted, so i wont contribute. however, ur blog is a great read!ReplyDelete
Eamon - Fuck It. For the really bitter break up.ReplyDelete
Have you seen 'High Fidelity'? You must see 'High Fidelity'. It is about songs and lists and breakups and so on.ReplyDelete
Alikhan, Nusrat Fateh
Try Breathe by Sia. It's quite neat.ReplyDelete
I would add...ReplyDelete
The Gathering - Saturnine
Antimatter - The Last Laugh, The Art of Soft Landing
Afghan Whigs - My Curse
The last two can't technically be aligned with your list, but still ...
And don't listen to Antimatter if you cannot take dark music. Their music might take you to places where things get knit up and come out as a big blob of white with just one solitary, uncertain dash of grey...
All you girls should try a track called 'Farewell' by Rosie ThomasReplyDelete
Afghan Whigs and Sheryl Crow have some brill break up numbers too.ReplyDelete
And Damien Rice! (oh boy, cheers darling is brilliant to sum up a depression!!)
radiohead's creep- cos he must have been a creep to break up with me?!ReplyDelete
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